The best things in life don’t happen on a screen…

If you add up the hours you spend each day interacting with your phone, tablet, laptop, desktop or television, you may realize that you’re spending the majority of your waking life staring at a screen.

Sure, much of this screen time is useful or necessary, even sometimes enjoyable. But there are a lot of other times when our screens distract us from things that are truly important to us—whether it’s the people we love or the activities that bring us meaning and joy.

So let’s take back our lives from our screens by balancing screening time and real lifetime.

Easy choices, hard life. Hard choices, easy life…

If we are making the hard choices now then the long-term will be easy.
If we make the easy choices now, the long-term life will be a lot harder.

In what to eat, if we are not eating all the junk food and making the hard choice to work out, then the long-term life will be easy. Won’t be sick. Won’t be unhealthy.

But if we eat junk food, do not work out and take easy choices now, the long-term will be much harder for our body & mind.

The same is true of values.

The same is true of career & goals.

The same is true of saving up for a rainy day.

The same is true of our approach to our relationships.

Criticism or Praise…

If you have to criticize someone, then don’t criticize the person, criticize the general approach or criticize that class of activities.

If you have to praise someone, then always try and find the person who is the best example of what you’re praising and then praise that person, specifically.

That way people’s egos and identities, which we all have, don’t work against you, they work for you.

Wisdom is to provide actionable items using knowledge…

Knowledge by itself has not much value until it provides actionable items.

For example, gaining knowledge of investments & finance by the best sources still won’t get you richer, unless you apply it.

Wisdom is baking knowledge through experience, failure, and success. Mentors, coaches & experts are so valuable because they provide knowledge with actions.

But at the same time, knowledge is the first step towards success.

So while accumulating knowledge it’s critical to gain experience through practice & failure. Ultimately leading to success.

Anger & Resentment eats human energy bar…

Life Energy Bar

A day without anger (resentment) is the most productive day. We accomplish most on that day in comparison and are more energetic at the end of the day.

All the talk about focus and increasing productivity is thrown away the moment we meet anger or resentment.

Observe a day and notice that the more we feel angry or resented about things or people, the day becomes more exhausting.

It’s like a video (computer) game, you have an energy bar when you start and anger keeps eating the bar till you bleed out at the end.

So…

If its chronic anger (resentment) start taking baby steps to solve it.

If its instant anger, ignore the triggers or control it. check – Different ways to control anger.

Hence to win a day one at a time, start by resolving to be less angry and resenting that day.

Still, Stewing About That Mistake?

Rumination

When we make a mistake at work, we replay it in our head for days or even weeks? This kind of overthinking is called rumination, and it can lead to serious anxiety.

To break out of the cycle, there are a few things we can do. For one, identify the rumination triggers. Do certain types of people, projects, or decisions make us second-guess ourselves? Notice when (and why) a situation is causing to start overthinking things. And try avoiding it for some time till we are back to normal.

It can also be useful to distance from negative thoughts by labeling them as thoughts or feelings. For example, instead of saying “I’m inadequate,” we can say “I’m feeling like I’m inadequate.” These labels can help us distinguish what we’re experiencing from who we truly are as a person and an employee.

Another way to short-circuit rumination is to distract ourselves. When our brain won’t stop spinning, try taking a walk, meditate, workout or fill out an expense report — do any simple activity to focus on for a few minutes.

With practice, we can overcome the rumination and get back to our productive selves.

Should You Disagree in a Job Interview?

When you express your honest opinion during an interview, you present yourself as you are, not as who you think the employer wants you to be. But disagreeing with an interviewer isn’t always easy because of the imbalance of power. Navigate the potential downsides by doing a few things before and during the interview.

First, research the company. Is the culture one where people are receptive to new ideas? Are the organization and its founders are known for inclusion and open-mindedness or do they have a slow-moving, legacy mindset? During the meeting, if the interviewer asks a question that gives you pause, resist the urge to answer immediately.

Take time to formulate a thoughtful response. And ask for permission to provide a different viewpoint. Say something like: “I see this differently. May I share my perspective with you?” Of course, follow your gut. If you think disagreeing won’t be well-received, then bite your tongue.

If the interviewer made you uncomfortable — if you felt dismissed or unheard — trust your instincts. When expressing differing opinions isn’t welcomed in an interview, it probably won’t be encouraged once you’re part of the company.