Sometimes it goes well
Sometimes it hurts
Sometimes it’s good
Sometimes it’s bad
Life changes as a whim
What always stays
Is what we keep learning
And that’s the only path that brings growth
So let’s always be in the learning mode.
I heard this story about a fish. He swims up to an older fish and says: “I’m trying to find this thing they call the ocean.”
“The ocean?” the older fish says, “that’s what you’re in right now.”
“This”, says the young fish, “this is water. What I want is the ocean!”
We are running to get life, while life is running away!-Anon
People are the foundation of any company’s success. The primary job of each manager is to help people be more effective in their job and to grow and develop. We have great people who want to do well, are capable of doing great things, and come to work fired up to do them. Great people flourish in an environment that liberates and amplifies that energy. Managers create this environment through support, respect, and trust.
Support means giving people the tools, information, training, and coaching they need to succeed. It means continuous effort to develop people’s skills. Great managers help people excel and grow.
Respect means understanding people’s unique career goals and being sensitive to their life choices. It means helping people achieve these career goals in a way that’s consistent with the needs of the company.
Trust means freeing people to do their jobs and to make decisions. It means knowing people want to do well and believing that they will.
— Trillion Dollar Coach
Why be happy only for the big moments in life?
Why can’t we be happier, laugh more and make merry for the smaller moments? Why can’t we lower our bar to get excited and be happier about the small things?
If we divide life into two parts :-
The first part – Smaller, daily, or routine things that happen. It constitutes 90% of our lifetime. Smaller things like:-
A casual laugh with friends.
An emotional smile with your other half.
The tasty food.
Smell of Coffee.
Sunlight in your face.
Playing with your kids.
Helping others sometime going out of way.
Play games with your family & friends.
These smaller moments happen almost daily and frequently but we choose to either ignore it or bypass it watching in a drunken stupor looking something beyond them…something bigger, holding ourselves back for the big moment to come.
Second part – Bigger, larger life events that happen. It constitutes 10% of our lifetime. Bigger events like:–
Got selected into a good job.
Got your salary hike.
Bought something new and bigger than your neighbours. A car, A house.
Travel to some exotic place.
There may be more, but the above does not happen more than 15-20 times in our lifetime.
So why depend on these bigger moments that are rare to make us happier and keep waiting?
Sure we should strive for the bigger moments but if we are happier with the smaller things in life i.e the 90% part, these 10% will automatically be with us.
This is the reason children are happier most of the time as they are happy and excited about smaller things in life.
So smile 🙂 ! Be happy and be excited for the next small thing that is coming your way today.
Why we set up Goals? A simple answer is to be successful. If you are a sports-person winning the sport. If an entrepreneur then achieving a revenue level or key metrics. And if a student aiming to excel in exams to get a good career.
At the same time, I am sure our fellow sports-person, business competitors, or classmates are also setting similar goals.
But only a few of us achieves these goals. So what differentiates between setting Goals and achieving them –
The Systems(Process) is the differentiator, which we build consistently not Goals.
Here are few problems with setting Goals:
Winners and losers have the same Goals
Every Olympian participating wants to win gold, but only a few wins it. Every candidate wants to get a good job. And if successful and unsuccessful people share the same goals, then the goal by itself cannot be the differentiating factor between the winner and the losers.
It’s with the systems, the process that makes winners achieve their goals.
Achieving the goal brings only a momentary change
Imagine you worked hard and got your dream job, but after joining you got complacent in the job. As your performance drops, you start feeling frustrated and if you don’t mend ways soon you may have to leave the job.
Achieving the goal only changes our life momentarily. Maintaining that level or as we aspire more we need to be always performing or learning at that level, in fact, keep increasing our bar.
So Goal even if its achieved, is temporary, not a long-term achievement.
Goal restricts our happiness and limits motivation
Once I reach my goal, then I’ll be happy. The problem with a goals-first mentality is that you’re continually putting happiness off until the next milestone.
In this case happiness was always something for future self to enjoy.
When all the hard work is focused on a particular goal, motivation to keep working hard drops once we achieve it. Whereas in life there is always the next level of aspirations.
If we enjoy the systems, the process we will be much happier and will be consistently achieving success.
Goals without Systems makes us dependent on luck
Without proper systems, we may achieve a goal or may not there is no surety. In the end, it’s about performance but unless we are sure about ourselves, it’s left to chance. Mentally it is accounted as being lucky if we achieve the goal or unlucky if not.
Edison’s failed 10,000 times before perfecting his electric bulb, do you think he was dependent on luck or goal setting? If he would not have followed the process diligently, again and again, it’s not possible to achieve such a feat.
Even luck favours Systems and Consistent hard work.
So enjoy the process, build the systems and don’t worry about goals, it will follow you around.
No matter how many self-help and motivation books I read if things do not move as planned the feeling of despair creeps in.
But if we look at it closely things rarely move as per plan for anyone, it’s either good or bad based on our perception of the situation.
In the end, nothing is as good as it seems or as bad as it seems. And the feeling of despair will go away as the new day comes.
So whenever the feeling comes in I remember this quote from Gita:
Whatever happened, happened for the good. Whatever is happening, is happening for the good. Whatever will happen, will also happen for the good.– Bhagavad Gita
Despite what you might think, expressing vulnerability and asking for help, clarification, or input can be a sign of strength and confidence, not weakness.
It requires confidence to acknowledge the short comings. Whereas one who is waiting to solve everything by oneself is indulging on ego and insecurity.
So don’t worry and go ask for help…