In these times, we remember what’s really important. Suffering, be it our own or that of others, prompts us to think.
Who feels like buying fancy clothes now? Who cares about VIP tickets? When you’re forced to reduce expectations and stop living large, you gain space to reflect. A common conclusion is, “Oh, I never needed this, to begin with.”
Suddenly, it’s enough to watch your children play. To read a book or talk to a friend on the phone. If you can’t fill your spare time with distractions, the only alternative is to spend it on what’s meaningful.
Granted, all this reduced spending might not be prolonged, and it might look bad on paper for the world economy — but in the end, it’ll turn us into better humans. We might even use more of our resources to benefit others once we resume business-as-usual.
We have little control over the big things.
But if we keep working on little things daily, continuously the efforts add up.
One after another, day after day.
It might be enough to impact the big things.
High achievers often have lofty aspirations for self-improvement. But big goals — such as “meditate for an hour every day,” or “reading 50 books a year” — are often more burdensome than they are sustainable. So, start small by focusing on “microhabits” — more achievable behaviors that you build over long periods of time.
These habits should be ridiculously small, like meditating for 30 seconds or reading a paragraph each night. To minimize effort, piggyback on a daily task. Perform your new action at the same time as (or right before) something you already do every day. Read that one paragraph while brushing your teeth. Meditate while waiting for your coffee to brew.
Then, track your progress, but keep it simple. Try using a “yes list” where you write down the desired action, and under each date simply note a Y or N to indicate if you completed the task. Once you’ve accrued several weeks of Ys, you can increase your microhabit by a small increment, say 10%.
Continue these tiny, incremental adjustments until the new habit is part of your muscle memory. Focus on “Microhabits” to Change Your Behavior.
There is a huge difference between the two sentences but most of the time we mingle and confuse them.
Not speaking up as I don’t dare may be ok initially. But sometimes u do need to speak up and till then don’t dare becomes u don’t care.
A lot of things in life get converted from I don’t dare to I don’t care and once set we really don’t care.
I don’t dare to learn public speaking as its scary to speak in front of the audience becomes I don’t care with time. And then we never care to try again.
But if we can keep the distinction alive and keep it to I don’t dare, someday we will dare to overcome it.
Any situation whether its career-related, personal or social we tend to focus on negatives.
“Oh! I don’t know this topic what will happen in Job Interview? “, “let me skip this interview”
“I am not good looking enough to meet her/him”
“My English is not good enough to speak”
There are many such statements that goes in our mind. The main reason to focus on negatives is our ego, in other terms fear of failure. It pushes us to edge, why this happens to me? “The Ego Ahem”
As an intellectual, we always turn to logic in failures while in the success we assume it’s because of self. Whereas this might not be always true.
In any environment, there will be positives and negatives, it’s our choice to focus on one. So which one to focus? Why?
There is a 50% chance of success or failure whether you select positives or negatives. Our best bet is to focus on positives because that’s where we are good at!
Also focusing on positives makes us happier and we are willing to work harder.
Hence let’s focus on positives, be happy and achieve success more often than failures.
Something is more interesting than this and it’s always true.
Whatever you’re doing.
No matter who you’re with.
Something, somewhere, is more interesting than this and now.
And it’s in your pocket.
All the time. As long as the battery lasts.
There’s an alert, a status update, breaking news. There’s a vibration or a text, just waiting. Something. Right now.
Unless we choose to redefine whatever we’re doing as the thing we’ve chosen to do, right here and right now.
जीवन के दुखों से, यूँ डरते नहीं हैं
ऐसे बचके सच से गुज़रते नहीं हैं
सुख की है चाह तो, दुख भी सहना है!
Do not fear sufferings and run away from the truth in life.
If you want happiness, you should also be prepared to bear suffering.
Treat happiness and suffering as opposite sides of a single coin and accept both.