Criticism or Praise…

If you have to criticize someone, then don’t criticize the person, criticize the general approach or criticize that class of activities.

If you have to praise someone, then always try and find the person who is the best example of what you’re praising and then praise that person, specifically.

That way people’s egos and identities, which we all have, don’t work against you, they work for you.

Should You Disagree in a Job Interview?

When you express your honest opinion during an interview, you present yourself as you are, not as who you think the employer wants you to be. But disagreeing with an interviewer isn’t always easy because of the imbalance of power. Navigate the potential downsides by doing a few things before and during the interview.

First, research the company. Is the culture one where people are receptive to new ideas? Are the organization and its founders are known for inclusion and open-mindedness or do they have a slow-moving, legacy mindset? During the meeting, if the interviewer asks a question that gives you pause, resist the urge to answer immediately.

Take time to formulate a thoughtful response. And ask for permission to provide a different viewpoint. Say something like: “I see this differently. May I share my perspective with you?” Of course, follow your gut. If you think disagreeing won’t be well-received, then bite your tongue.

If the interviewer made you uncomfortable — if you felt dismissed or unheard — trust your instincts. When expressing differing opinions isn’t welcomed in an interview, it probably won’t be encouraged once you’re part of the company.

Righteousness…

Do you want to grow in your career or do you want to be right? The two are mutually exclusive. The need to be proven right in arguments and discussions shuts you out to learning and course correction while you come across as arrogant.

The opposite is your need to grow which makes you open to suggestions, different ideas, and criticism. Some of which will add to your learning while leading to better results.

So, remind yourself each time that you are better off being wrong and learning something new for the future instead of being perceived to be right temporarily.

Inspect what you expect…

As a leader or manager, it’s puzzling and sometimes frustrating “why people do not do as expected”.
Even though we define clear goals and target numbers, it’s still not achieved.
Let’s look at some of the possible reasons & solutions.

#Miss-Communication:- Are we sure that goals and targets are clear to the individual. You should confirm that let’s ask the individual to repeat it in writing if possible. Not that you don’t trust, its just that it’s imperative to understand their clarity.

#How to Achieve? :- “What to Achieve” is clear, but what about the “How part”? Both the manager and the individual should have a fair understanding of how to reach the goal. This should give some confidence level on the achievement of the goal.

#Inspect what you expect:- This is the most critical step, to inspect what you are expecting at regular intervals. Check the status of the plan, where its reached, what are the bottlenecks etc and any glaring problems. Discuss with the individual to understand and help her if possible.

#Postmortem of past failures to learn:- Let’s learn from failures to ensure that in future we do not repeat the mistakes. Ask the individual to do the analysis and comeback with recommendations.

Overall “Inspect what you expect” at regular intervals to guide your team to achieve their goals.

Losing your audience during the presentation…

You can tell when an audience has stopped listening to a presentation. Phones come out, people slouch in their seats, maybe someone dozes off. If you notice this happening during your talk, try a few techniques to grab people’s attention.

  • Move around the room. It keeps audience members guessing where you’ll go next, which means their eyes are trained on you.
  • Lower your voice, or even pause. Speaking in a monotone isn’t very engaging, of course, and neither is always speaking at the same volume. To regain attention, try speaking softly so that people need to focus in order to follow along, or using a well-timed pause to create suspense around what’s coming next.
  • Speak faster or slower. When you change speeds, people take note: What’s different here? Why does this part sound distinct? And that means they’ll tune in to what you’re saying.
  • Use a story or analogy. A real-world example can help people understand and relate to your topic, especially if it’s a technical one.