Should You Disagree in a Job Interview?

When you express your honest opinion during an interview, you present yourself as you are, not as who you think the employer wants you to be. But disagreeing with an interviewer isn’t always easy because of the imbalance of power. Navigate the potential downsides by doing a few things before and during the interview.

First, research the company. Is the culture one where people are receptive to new ideas? Are the organization and its founders are known for inclusion and open-mindedness or do they have a slow-moving, legacy mindset? During the meeting, if the interviewer asks a question that gives you pause, resist the urge to answer immediately.

Take time to formulate a thoughtful response. And ask for permission to provide a different viewpoint. Say something like: “I see this differently. May I share my perspective with you?” Of course, follow your gut. If you think disagreeing won’t be well-received, then bite your tongue.

If the interviewer made you uncomfortable — if you felt dismissed or unheard — trust your instincts. When expressing differing opinions isn’t welcomed in an interview, it probably won’t be encouraged once you’re part of the company.

In the Cocoon…

We all have our “Wall of Safety” that gives us a comfort zone.

For child, its the parent that doesn’t allow risking.

For adults, it is the social norms that doesn’t allow risking.

For poor, it is the daily wages that doesn’t allow risking.

For richer, it is the steady income that doesn’t allow risking.

It’s a cocoon to protect and allow us a path. On introspection, there are a lot of cocoons safeguarding us. While it keeps us comfortable it creates restrictions and boundaries.

Unless we break out, we will keep continuing what we are. But there is always a choice to explore, be different, perhaps better. Or be in the cocoon.

Seeing is not looking…

We “See” a lot of things and ignore ..but when we “Look” at it we pay attention.

Lot of the things we do in “See” mode and to conformity. But that’s fine since we are lazy beings.

Trouble starts when life’s critical decisions we do in “See” mode like Career choices (Copy from others), or getting married.

Successful people do these two things to the mark:

#1 Identifying what’s critical for you – Your dreams, goals, mission, etc.

#2 Use your bests “Look” mode for what’s in #1. Grind it hard… to figure out the path for it.

Remember hard work does not come in the first two if you can figure out the first part, and do your bests. Working hard comes naturally to fulfilling your dreams!

Righteousness…

Do you want to grow in your career or do you want to be right? The two are mutually exclusive. The need to be proven right in arguments and discussions shuts you out to learning and course correction while you come across as arrogant.

The opposite is your need to grow which makes you open to suggestions, different ideas, and criticism. Some of which will add to your learning while leading to better results.

So, remind yourself each time that you are better off being wrong and learning something new for the future instead of being perceived to be right temporarily.

Losing your audience during the presentation…

You can tell when an audience has stopped listening to a presentation. Phones come out, people slouch in their seats, maybe someone dozes off. If you notice this happening during your talk, try a few techniques to grab people’s attention.

  • Move around the room. It keeps audience members guessing where you’ll go next, which means their eyes are trained on you.
  • Lower your voice, or even pause. Speaking in a monotone isn’t very engaging, of course, and neither is always speaking at the same volume. To regain attention, try speaking softly so that people need to focus in order to follow along, or using a well-timed pause to create suspense around what’s coming next.
  • Speak faster or slower. When you change speeds, people take note: What’s different here? Why does this part sound distinct? And that means they’ll tune in to what you’re saying.
  • Use a story or analogy. A real-world example can help people understand and relate to your topic, especially if it’s a technical one.