Power of ideas…

A powerful idea makes all the difference between a successful and an unsuccessful person, team, or company.

An idea is “A thought or suggestion as to a possible course of action” – It stresses the process of imagining or formulating rather than the result.

And once an idea is executed properly it gives us a leap of growth in that area of our life, taking us to the next level.

Most of the successful people have constantly found and applied ideas in their life and hence become successful. Be it in science, art , sports, finance, business or their personal life.

How to generate ideas:

Contrary to the belief that it has to do with high IQ, it’s, in general, more to do with the presence of mind. History has proven that grounded people with dedicated efforts generate better ideas. Here are the key ingredients for generating good ideas: 

Constant Motivation

Necessity is the mother of all inventions. We should be motivated either internally or externally. Also should have the passion and doggedness to follow thru our hearts.

Free Mind

Ideas flow in free mind.

It’s not possible to have a good thought process with a cluttered mind. If we are bogged down with stress, tension, or negative emotions, it will hinder the free flow of thoughts. 

Only a controlled and focused mind can generate better ideas. 

Be it meditation, soothing music, or morning prayers, whatever calms our mind and helps us focus.

Exercise – A healthy body

For a healthy mind, we need a healthy body, and exercising is the best way to keep fit. Whether it’s long walks or running it doesn’t matter as long as physical exercise is part of the daily regime.

Varied Knowledge and Interests

Apart from constant learning in the field where we want to generate ideas. It’s a huge advantage to gain knowledge in other work areas that is not related to ours.

For example, if you are an entrepreneur, it opens a new perspective if you learn guitar or any musical instrument. It broadens our horizons and empowers us to have different thought processes. 

Some of the activities that helps:

• Reading Books (Possibly from wide variety of subjects)

• Learning different Languages (Each languages gives different prospectives) 

• Learning Music or Creative Art etc (Learning other creative areas of work)

Anything that allows us to dip into and learn other work areas.

Courage

To think of an idea sometimes we need to break the mold, be courageous,  be stupid and be bold to try things that have never been tried before. 

Courage and lateral way of thinking is critical for ideas to flow in.

Environment

As they say, you are what surrounds you. Our chances of creating new ideas and pursuing them improve if we have peers, a social circle, or an environment that embraces new ideas.

Feeling Overwhelmed? Let’s Avoid These Mistakes…

When you feel overwhelmed, the way you react can actually make things worse. Here are five common, self-sabotaging mistakes to watch out for — and how to avoid them:

You think you don’t have time for actions that might help you. 

Stop waiting for an ideal moment, and do something to help yourself immediately, such as finding a therapist, taking a day off to rest, or calling up a friend.

You don’t use your unconscious mind enough. 

It’s unreasonable to expect to be focused all the time. Try taking a walk and letting your mind drift and see what solutions emerge.

You interpret feeling overwhelmed as a weakness. 

Being hard on yourself will only lead you to procrastinate or become more perfectionistic. Replace your self-criticism with compassionate self-talk.

You default to your traditional approaches and defenses. 

Our strengths may not always work to our advantage; for example, thoughtfulness can become overthinking, or high standards can lead to perfectionism. Be mindful of your instinctive reactions in order to stay flexible in your approach to problem solving.

You withdraw from your support system. 

Find ways to connect with people even when you’ve got limited emotional energy.

Innovators or Leaders

Creators, Designers, Chefs, Programmers, Individual Contributors….

They have the power to create something thru their skills, be it program, design, food, clothes that others can use.

Leaders, Entrepreneurs, Managers, Business Owners….

They use other’s powers to create and build something that others use.

Yes, there are commonalities, but one is incomplete without the other. Need both (Mix n match) to grow and make a difference.

Do what matters

If you do what is easy, your life will be hard
If you do what is hard, your life will be easy

Good leader

A sign of a good leader is not how many followers you have, but how many leaders you create

Thinking is an addiction

Here is the definition of “Addiction” – “the fact or condition of being addicted to a particular substance or activity.

In the case of “Thinking“: Mind’s condition of “nonstop thinking” is an addiction.

How much thinking we do on daily basis? Look at the hours we spent on thinking about oneself, what we did, what shouldn’t do, what we had done, how we can change this, what others are thinking about us. Blah, Blah, Blah…Mind just keeps rambling about all the things, true, untrue and more…

How can we stop thinking and start doing actions? Maybe cut the thoughts and just live the moment. Why shouldn’t we set hours, do things, to act, without thinking, without judging?

Imagine how a child interacts with surroundings without thinking and enjoying everything, this is one of the reasons children can do a lot of activities without even getting tired once……

Thinking drains so much of our energy, as it drags us to mindless loop and specifically if its negative or worrisome thoughts? How can we get rid of these looping thoughts of negativity or worrying?

I think (What a dilemma I am still thinking :)) We can accomplish a lot of things if we just take up actions, without thinking and blocking ourselves. What do you say?

Parenting…

 

Parenting is often a rinse and repeat of this scenario: “Ideas you have about how it should be, combined with what experience is telling you to do, overlaid with too many options and chronic exhaustion.”

Let’s look at different ways in which we can make it bit easy and more accessible to be doing it:

#Adaptation: We all know the meaning of Adaptation:-“Species Adapt to Change”. As a parent, we have this notion of following a righteous path and giving no room for change. If our child has to sleep at 10:30 she has to sleep at 10:30 period. Maybe this notion came from peers or our own ideas to be disciplined? Why not adapt based on our child, based on the situation. Every child has different needs and it changes very drastically with their age.

We can get out of this type of thinking if we reframe ‘changing’ as ‘adapting’. And stop critisizing ourselves for our inevitable parenting mistakes, to get out of the no-point comparisons with our peers, and to give us the freedom to make changes depending on the situation.

#Bigger Picture: Yes, I know what bigger picture got to do with Parenting? Think about it what is it we want our children to learn? Most importantly – To be successful in life or may be to be successful in studies, career or sports. Or you might have some bigger dreams for them.

Now if your child is not cleaning her room, or keeps a messy room. But good in studies and shown a keen interest in chess. Instead of badgering every day for messy room, can’t we find a middle territory and let them be for these lesser things.

At the end what we want is for them to come to us for help when life gets really complicated? If yes then we need to focus on behaviors that will allow having that strategic influence on them. Making them feel crappy every day because the shirt is not matching with pants or because all the Pokemon cards are on the floor, isn’t going to cut it. Make no mistake, letting go of smaller things is not about throwing out all the rules. This is about knowing which battles to fight, so you can keep the middle territory of the trust and respect with your child.

#Removing obstacles, doing less of: Its not always about finding solutions, but sometimes about reducing obstacles. When it comes to parenting, we need to ask ourselves not only what we could be doing more of, but also what we could be doing less of.

When my friend was going on month number nine of her baby waking up four times a night, she felt at her wits’ end. She had been trying different techniques and strategies, thinking that there was something she wasn’t doing right. When nothing seemed to be working, she stopped trying to add elements like new tactics and changed her strategy. She looked instead for obstacles to remove. Was there anything preventing the baby from sleeping through the night?

The first night she made it darker. No effect. The second night she made it warmer. Her son has slept through the night ever since. It wasn’t her parenting skills or the adherence to a particular sleep philosophy that was causing him to wake up so often. Her baby was cold. Once she removed that obstacle with a heater the problem was resolved.

We do this all the time, trying to fix a problem by throwing new parenting philosophies at the situation. What can I do better? More time, more money, more lessons, more stuff. But it can be equally valuable to look for what you could be doing less of. In so doing, you may enrich your relationships with your children immeasurably.

With these let’s try and to be more successful in our Parenting, Happy Parenting to you!

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