Not every conversation we have is about give or take from others.
Sometimes it can be about old times shared together good or bad.
Sometimes it can be about pouring each others heart about the anomalies of life.
Sometimes it can be about lucky or unlucky stories in life.
Sometimes it can be cribbing about current times.
Sometimes it can be about being happy for older times.
So don’t always have conversations with give or take intent but have it for the sake of enjoying it.
It’s known that we should spend less time attached to our mobile. But to make a real change, we need to understand why? We will have a better chance of succeeding if we identify exactly what is motivating us. Here are three common reasons people want to unplug and tips for each:
To stop being rude. In social settings, turn your mobile off, disable notifications for tempting apps, or agree on a penalty for whoever checks their phone (maybe buying a round of drinks).
To focus better at home or work. Put your mobile on silent, turn off cellular data, or — best of all — keep it entirely out of sight.
To set better digital boundaries. Use a landline at work, ditch your smartphone for a more basic model, or create strict rules for your devices (say, no mobile during mealtimes).
For getting into a flow of any activity, you need to have these 3 ingredients:
1. Clear goals: You need to have a clear purpose for the activity, I want to finish this story, I want to climb this rock, I want to play this song on guitar.
2. Something meaningful to you: You should be doing something meaningful to you in life. It can be something interesting or something which you live to earn money etc.
3. Edge of your abilities: You should be doing it at the edge, not very easy otherwise it will become dull, not very difficult otherwise it becomes demotivating. It should be on the edge of both.
In the state of flow your ego vanishes, you have merged with the task and you don’t bother about the time engaged in the activity.
Failure makes a better story than success.
One of the main reasons is in failure people don’t feel threatened, in fact, they start correlating with some of their own failures.
Secondly, the failure story tells other people, we are down-to-earth human beings who can fail the same as they are.
So if you want to connect with someone best way is to share real stories of failure. Moreover, there is nothing ethically wrong with sharing failure stories.
What if we can break down the mega decisions into small bite-size decisions.
Will it make it easier to decide? Yes and No.
Yes, in the cases you know in and out of the decision, you have the capability to break it down and take micro decisions.
No, where you don’t have any know-how, hence don’t know where to break or how to break, in this case, hire an expert that can help to break it down for you.
If you think of running after the money and becoming rich, it does not work that way.
Here are the reasons why:
1. There are hundreds of different ways of making money and I mean proper, ethical ways of making money. So which one to choose? If you choose one path, while in the midst you will feel that the other path is easier. So you will start looking at other paths and regret choosing the current one and start failing in it.
2. Secondly, out of these ways, there are a few which will suit you. In general, we decide by current affair bias; Entrepreneurs are getting rich, I should become an entrepreneur, or doctors are rich people, I should become a doctor. But deciding by only looking at who has done what is foolish, and sooner you will realize that you are not cut out for it.
3. Third, if you are looking at money and what comes with it (Jealousy, Comparison, Stress, etc), you will in general do shallow work, not focusing on deep work, you will be more into worldly gain rather than reaching a life goal, and there are no short-cuts to reach substantial goals in any field. Hence it will lead to being mediocre in your area, ultimately not leading to the richness you want.
4. Lastly, you need to be persistent in one area to really reach the level. Only a few of the entrepreneurs have become rich, and a lot of the others are struggling and failing. There are a lot of doctors, but only a few are rich to the level. Persistency, hard work, and determination come from within, and it requires a lot of self-motivation, that comes from a lifelong goal to do something, to be something not just from the desire to earn money and become rich.
Many of us are so focused on doing it all that we forget to carve out time for ourselves. But ensuring your own health and happiness is critical. So give yourself permission to take care of yourself — now.
If you put off self-care until work is less busy, your kids are back in school, your house is in order, or some other circumstances are exactly right, you may never get to it.
Start with the basics: We all need sleep, food, and exercise. Ask yourself where you’re deficient and what you can do about it.
Next, ensure self-care is your schedule. Determine how much time you have and what you can do with that time. Then block it off on your calendar — and stick to it. Be sure to prepare yourself for “me time” by eliminating potential distractions or friction between you and your goal.
For example, set a sleep alarm on your phone or lay out your workout clothes the night before. Finally, set firm boundaries by being clear with others about when you’ll be turning your full attention to yourself.