Days go by and nothing happens…

If your days are going by and nothing is happening, build habits to focus and well-being. Add some stability to an unstable time by ensuring you have habits aligning with your long-term goals. 

Divide your habits into 4 critical areas:

Personal reflection, Professional reflection, Relationships, and Health (both physical and mental). Being accountable thru habits in these areas keeps us grounded and also aligns towards long-term goals.

Creating and reinforcing habits this way can assure you that you’re doing what you need to — no matter how many things you’re juggling.

3 Ways to Stop the Guilt Cycle…

We all feel guilty at times. Why didn’t I start that project earlier? Why did I make that comment in the meeting? Why didn’t I apply for that job? While pervasive, second-guessing yourself like this can waste valuable energy. Here are three ways to stop the guilt cycle.

Unplug from your responsibilities every once in a while. 

It’s not always a bad thing to chill out and do nothing. In fact, self-care is a crucial step toward achieving your goals. Don’t let your workplace or cultural norms drive you to feel guilty about not using every minute of every day to do something productive.

Take care of yourself before assisting others. 

You can’t help anyone (whether it’s your boss, friend, or family member) if you’re a nervous wreck. Make time for your priorities. If you’ve chosen a path, don’t second guess yourself or be pulled off course by others’ needs.

Pay attention to how you’re affecting those around you. 

Your insistence on being perfect may be spilling over into your relationships. For example, if you’re constantly pressuring yourself to perform, your team may feel guilty for not meeting your same standards.

Long-lasting work…

Work done with love and care is long-lasting.

Work done with passion and goal is lasting.

Work done with greed and ego is short lasting.

Work done with disinterest or force is hurting not lasting.

So, let’s find work which is long hasting and it will be remembered forever.

How to Handle Criticism…

As you grow either in your job, professional life, or personal life. We all want to get positive attention from others and create a positive image. While sometimes it will be positive—but when things go badly, not so much. If you’re facing criticism, what’s the best way to respond? Here are some strategies that can help when you’re in the eye of the storm.

Accept that criticism is part of your life. 

It’s life, you’ll inevitably go wrong and disappoint people from time to time. If you focus too much on the failures, you’ll risk losing confidence, clouding your judgment in the future.

Don’t focus on fairness. 

Rather than focusing on whether or not you deserve the blame, focus instead on solving the problem, responding to anyone who’s been harmed, and learning from what happened.

Set the record straight with facts, not emotions. 

Defensiveness will only fuel people’s derision. If there’s inaccurate information feeding the frenzied reactions, do what you can and replace it with facts.

Be humble, transparent, and open-minded. 

Ask yourself what lessons you can learn from the experience. Do you need to do things differently? Have you made unfounded assumptions? Look closely enough, and you’ll find important insights.

Take action and rework, and grow. 

Commit to a new direction, clarifying what you’ll change and how you’ll avoid repeating the problem—and keep yourself updated and keep progressing over time.

Change is Quiet…

When we are altering something, it can be a policy or the way we dress, or the way we behave. 

We imagine that everyone will notice it, but almost no one does. That’s because no one cares about the noises we have in our heads. 

We might think there will be a lot of commotion for doing something which is inconsistent, but if it’s useful, it will happen quietly without noise.

You Need a Bedtime, Too

Have you felt tired this week? If so, the problem might not be that you’re getting too little sleep—it could be that you’re getting the wrong kind of sleep. Disorderly sleep (not enough some nights, too many others) is a recipe for exhaustion, volatile moods, and unproductive workdays. 

How can you establish a more consistent sleep schedule? 

The answer is painfully simple—and for many of us, painfully difficult to implement: You need a bedtime. The good news? Choosing the right bedtime only requires some quick math. Start by deciding when you need to wake up most days. Subtract seven or eight hours, depending on how much sleep you think you need. If you want to get up at 7 am, your bedtime should be 11 pm or 12 am. 

To hold yourself accountable, set a “wind-down” alarm for 30 minutes or an hour before your bedtime. Stick to it for a week. This week’s fatigue will be last week’s problem.

4 Signs That You’re Too Emotional…

Being highly emotional towards something is a double-edged sword. On one hand, your passion propels you to perform and succeed. On the other, feeling too tethered to perform can drag you down, draining your energy and confidence. Here are some red flags to watch out for—and what to do about them.

You take criticism personally. 

If you’ve found yourself feeling angry, insecure, or demoralized after getting tough feedback or a minor setback, it’s time to take a step back. Remember, criticism of your work or interest is not a criticism of you as a person.

You are always working on it. 

Ask yourself: Am I overcompensating, working more hours in order to to be perfect in that thing? If so, try to shift your mindset to view rest, relaxation, and boundaries as necessary parts of your life—not just rewards.

Your mood swings very frequently.

You are very moody, suddenly getting angry or happy and immediately getting sad imagining something or the other. Next time this happens take deep breaths and calm yourself.

You’re a people-pleaser. 

Do you put others’ needs ahead of your own? If your kindness and generosity leave you feeling depleted rather than gratified, reflect honestly on your behaviors. When are you left feeling underappreciated? When does resentment start to bubble up? Identifying your people-pleasing triggers will help you mitigate them.