Does being angry serve any useful purpose?
If it does, are there classes you can take or experiences you can pay for that help you become angry? We have gyms to get fit and mindfulness exercises to get calm, but I’m not sure I’m seeing a widespread movement toward seeking angriness.
So, if being angry is simply a side effect of something else we do or are done to us. And if it’s not actually useful, why do we work so hard to amplify the anger we feel? Why create a narrative in our mind, push hard against the powerless scenarios or the stuck pickle jar simply to make ourselves even angrier?
The only person who is getting taught a lesson is us. And most of the time its too late to regret back the “Being Angry” phase…
We “See” a lot of things and ignore ..but when we “Look” at it we pay attention.
Lot of the things we do in “See” mode and to conformity. But that’s fine since we are lazy beings.
Trouble starts when life’s critical decisions we do in “See” mode like Career choices (Copy from others), or getting married.
Successful people do these two things to the mark:
#1 Identifying what’s critical for you – Your dreams, goals, mission, etc.
#2 Use your bests “Look” mode for what’s in #1. Grind it hard… to figure out the path for it.
Remember hard work does not come in the first two if you can figure out the first part, and do your bests. Working hard comes naturally to fulfilling your dreams!
Tradition tells us who we are, it sets us apart from other traditions.
It tells who we are, what we wear and what we eat…
It binds & places us together in society…
It defines and guides us with a way of living…
It may not define our path but it defines how we follow a path…
So let’s embrace the tradition as a guide.
A guide may not always be right but it always has good intentions for the pupils.
Do you want to grow in your career or do you want to be right? The two are mutually exclusive. The need to be proven right in arguments and discussions shuts you out to learning and course correction while you come across as arrogant.
The opposite is your need to grow which makes you open to suggestions, different ideas, and criticism. Some of which will add to your learning while leading to better results.
So, remind yourself each time that you are better off being wrong and learning something new for the future instead of being perceived to be right temporarily.
As a leader or manager, it’s puzzling and sometimes frustrating “why people do not do as expected”.
Even though we define clear goals and target numbers, it’s still not achieved.
Let’s look at some of the possible reasons & solutions.
#Miss-Communication:- Are we sure that goals and targets are clear to the individual. You should confirm that let’s ask the individual to repeat it in writing if possible. Not that you don’t trust, its just that it’s imperative to understand their clarity.
#How to Achieve? :- “What to Achieve” is clear, but what about the “How part”? Both the manager and the individual should have a fair understanding of how to reach the goal. This should give some confidence level on the achievement of the goal.
#Inspect what you expect:- This is the most critical step, to inspect what you are expecting at regular intervals. Check the status of the plan, where its reached, what are the bottlenecks etc and any glaring problems. Discuss with the individual to understand and help her if possible.
#Postmortem of past failures to learn:- Let’s learn from failures to ensure that in future we do not repeat the mistakes. Ask the individual to do the analysis and comeback with recommendations.
Overall “Inspect what you expect” at regular intervals to guide your team to achieve their goals.
Put a bag of sweets in the break room and it might sit for days.
Open the bag and leave it out, and within an hour, all the sweets will be gone.
We are happy to take a tiny slice off the thing that’s being shared, but we hesitate to open the bag.
The same is true with all of the initiatives in our culture. Design, movements, and ideas are all trapped, waiting to be opened, and then the rest of us will happily pile on.
Sometimes all it takes is Open the bag, Open the mind…