Stop Comparing Yourself to Your Peers

One of the benefits of social media is that it allows us to stay connected to old friends and former colleagues. But sometimes seeing other people’s successes can make us feel competitive — or even like we’re falling behind. There are a few strategies you can deploy to fight this uncomfortable feeling.

First, track your triggers. Identify what drives you to compare yourself to others. For example, is there a specific friend or colleague whose accomplishments make you feel insecure?

Next, reframe your thoughts. Instead of thinking of yourself as competing against that person, look at their accomplishments objectively. What can you learn from their progress? Then, counteract your self-doubt by doing something you’re good at — it’ll help you regain confidence and perhaps momentum toward your own goals.

And finally, let go of the “shoulds.” They often lead to perpetual insecurity. Instead, consider the possibility that everything you have chosen to do until now has always been the right path, regardless of what you think you were supposed to do — or what others are doing.

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