Parents are unconditional and forgiving punching bags who feel happiest when they get bashed up by their kids.
Traction is any action that pulls us toward what we want to do or what we are interested in doing. These actions are done with intent and purpose.
Distraction, on the other hand, is an action that pulls us away from what we want to do or rather what we need to do.
So if kids want to watch TV to get distracted from studies or escape from studies. It should be a big NO.
But If s/he wants to play Video games it should be fine as long as it’s scheduled and meaningful. However, playing Video games to escape from their responsibilities is a distraction.
Distraction if remained unchecked can form a negative habit, whereas Traction changes the perception and makes it more meaningful and positive.
Traction can also be used with if…then rule…
If you complete your studies in time, then you can watch TV for one hour.
If you help me with kitchen, then I can allow you to play video game for half an hour.
Same is true for us, so …
If I can finish that office presentation, then I can watch TV for one hour.
So anything including digital devices or digital time can be made positive and purposeful if used in the right perspective and within limits i.e for Traction, not Distraction.
As working parents, we know that it’s important to take time for ourselves. But what does that actually look like in practice?
One option is committing to a hobby. It can help us relax and recharge, hone new skills, become a better problem-solver, and connect with our kids better. But to reap these benefits, we have to be diligent about carving out regular time in our busy schedule. Whatever is our interest areas — arts and crafts, exercising, or reading.
Most importantly let’s set aside regular time for it, at least one consistent hour each week to delve into them. Consider organizing a book club or a musical group, or joining an exercise class that we look forward to. Invite friends to join if possible. (These activities can be held virtually in case of social distancing right now.)
Once the schedule is set, let’s ensure to communicate the time commitment to our family, so everyone can respect it when it comes around each week. It’s our self-time, and it’s important to be vocal about what it means for us.